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Everyday NhanSense – Under Construction

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To my dear readers:

Do not fret. I have not disappeared. I obviously haven’t died or anything.

For the past few days, I do apologize for being completely late with the daily(ish) blog posts I have been trying to churn out each day, but alas I was very late with them. Quite frankly, I will admit that I was writing some pretty halfhearted blog posts, at least when I am just skimming through the past few weeks.

With this in mind, I am not pulling the plug on this blog or anything like that. After all, this blog is like my “pulse.” It reflects a lot about how I have been feeling, whether good or bad. I will never stop blogging on this blog. It’s been my ongoing, oh-so-important project I have been maintaining for a long while now.

I am someone who has had a lot of misfortune in the past few years, with a lot of time spent just learning a lot about myself and all while going through the worst effects of depression and whatnot. But I survived. And this blog is a testament to me persevering just enough to keep going another day.
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Everyday NhanSense – Day 74

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Everyday NhanSense: Each day, I will blog about something that comes to mind. My goal is to practice writing about my hobbies, my interests, my opinions and so forth.

Day 74’s Topic: The other “you” in life.
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Compared to yesterday, I was much calmer by comparison.

There are days I swear I have another “me” just trying to get loose. Whether it’s a figment of my imagination or it’s just how I feel when I need to entertain myself upstairs, I honestly don’t have a clue.

But seriously, today felt way different in a good way. I was less frustrated, more in-tune with what I was doing and more aware of dialing back the bad feelings whenever they came up. Sure, I’ll admit I may have been a tad sluggish than usual, but you can’t have it all sometimes.

Nonetheless, the other “me” always wants to find fault with whatever I am doing and attempt to rationalize emotions that are basically toxic and dangerous if they were allowed to fester.

But you know what? They shouldn’t matter if I just brush them aside, stay mellow and allow myself to do what needs to be done to be productive.

Everyone, mood swings or not, has to deal with a myriad of emotions and feelings on a daily basis. Though my mood swings can prove random and difficult to predict, I manage by trying to keep the attention fixated on that spot of zen on the spectrum. When I achieve a sense of personal enlightenment, life can feel good.

However, it’s of course not always easy to find that right spot, and so we all come across situations where we may miss the mark at times.
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Everyday NhanSense – Day 60


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Everyday NhanSense: Each day, I will blog about something that comes to mind. My goal is to practice writing about my hobbies, my interests, my opinions and so forth.

Day 60’s Topic: Feeling mad.
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At the risk of sounding like I am paraphrasing The Incredible Hulk, I will go out and say it.

Every day, I feel angry. Angry in the sense that there is always something there, brooding, festering … whatever you want to call it. I know it’s there. I can feel it.

It’s like I have my anger simmering in another pot on the stove top, I’m never turning up the heat, but always I’m being conscious of it. As of late, it seems to become more apparent I am an angry person on the inside.

Not crazy mad, mind you, but just a little temper I have to contain in conjunction with my mood swings. There have been many days where I keep recalling all of the stuff that has made me super furious for whatever reason.

Job rejections.

People cutting me out of their life.

Drama.

Whatever it may be, no matter how serious, no matter how trivial, I guess a lot of it has lingered. It persists. It refuses to go away.

In fact, I have pondered whether I would rather feel sad or mad. And to be frank – I kind of wish I could feel a little blue rather than red hot. At the very least, I know being a depressed dude doesn’t hurt anyone. Being that person who can turn volatile at any point is dangerous, on the other hand. Both to themselves and others.

I hate it. I absolutely hate it. I feel like I have a ticking time bomb inside my heart, just waiting to explode at some undefined moment in time.

It scares the heck out of me.
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Everyday NhanSense – Day 52

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Everyday NhanSense: Each day, I will blog about something that comes to mind. My goal is to practice writing about my hobbies, my interests, my opinions and so forth.

Day 52’s Topic: Social anxiety acting as a barrier.
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By now, it’s pretty obvious I have horrible social anxiety that affects me day-to-day. In some instances, I manage to cope with it, and then there are other times I get so overly stimulated that I freeze.

Today, something happened to cause me to do just that. A coworker invited me to her birthday party this evening. She was going to have some of her friends over, particularly to play cards. I wasn’t feeling too well and some other personal things came up, so I wouldn’t have been able to go regardless. Or so I felt.

Besides feeling like I would have been a real buzzkill for her party, I just became frightened at the prospect of coming across too many new people at once and becoming too socially awkward with them. This, right here, is what caused me to start feeling a bit too nervous for my own taste.

I do horribly with big groups. I am OK with a few people. If they are strangers to boot, it makes me feel very shy and bashful. I already feel like the odd one among a small company of individuals, so a larger group makes me feel even more isolated.

I feel genuinely bad as well. My coworker is really nice, so I feel like a jerk for not sucking it up and heading over to her shindig. Because of situations like this, I realize now how devastating my social anxiety has been throughout my whole dang life.

It’s a barrier I have to break down, at least partially so I can venture out from my own self-created bubble once in a while.
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Everyday NhanSense – Day 27

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Everyday NhanSense: Each day, I will blog about something that comes to mind. My goal is to practice writing about my hobbies, my interests, my opinions and so forth.

Day 27’s Topic: Getting rid of insomnia.
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Getting a good night’s sleep in a long time has been quite the treat. Catching Z’s after a day full of personal triumphs and channeling all the stress from the past two months into something productive has been empowering. It just feels nice being able to slip into bed, tucked under some warm sheets while feeling the “good” kind of tired, if you know what I mean.

I realize a lot of my prior blog posts have at times come off as panicky, and rightfully so I had all the reasons in the world to freak out.

But storms come and go, and I can finally at least say my sails are facing toward an ideal direction for once. I hope that my body can return back to a relatively, and more importantly, consistent sleeping schedule that I don’t have to feel embarrassed about (no more staying up until 3 a.m. or later because of insomnia.)

The insomnia was damaging to my well-being. My inability to sleep properly derived from all kinds of stress and personal pressure I put on myself (heck, I have even spotted some random white hairs in the mirror for a few weeks now.) I woke up exhausted, feeling upset at myself and everything going on in my life, but above all else I just felt like I had nothing to look forward to each day.
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Everyday NhanSense – Day 16

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Everyday NhanSense: Each day, I will blog about something that comes to mind. My goal is to practice writing about my hobbies, my interests, my opinions and so forth.

Day 16’s Topic: Being a shut-in.
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I have been a shut-in my whole darn life. It has just been ingrained into my personality since day one. Even as a kid, I preferred staying indoors, tucked away in my room above all else. I guess in a sense I was destined (doomed?) to be an introvert at heart.

Heck, I was one of those kids whose parents would have to force their child to play outside. I recall lots of moments where I would get scolded for not getting enough fresh air. After all, it was typical for my parents to see me sitting on the floor while watching cartoons or playing video games for hours on end. Then again, cartoons and video games were my favorite things in the world as a child.

As a matter of fact, not a lot has changed over the years in a sense. I still love anime/animation, and being a gamer is still something I can label myself with confidence. Of course, the shut-in aspect is actually a part of me I want to change. At least, in some regards.

Because you see, I value my privacy. I like being able to relax in my own personal space without anyone cramping my style. But at the end of the day, I have found myself feeling very lonely without enough human interaction.

A random conversation does wonders for my well-being.

A discussion about sports. A debate about what’s the best kind of pizza topping. Anything. Just anything. Sometimes, I wish I could just talk to more people about things.
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Daily NhanSense – Day 30


Daily NhanSense: Every day, I will blog about something that comes to mind. My goal is to practice writing about my hobbies, my interests, my opinions and so forth.

Day 30’s Topic: Loneliness.


Having anti-social tendencies sucks, mainly when the feeling of loneliness starts creeping into your soul.

I understand myself. It’s in my nature. I have a lot of days where I just want my own space, to do my own thing, to be alone, but then there are other times where I yearn for some social contact.

It’s almost an everyday coin toss in this regard, and I never know what I will feel like throughout the week. I wish I could compromise with my anxiety and go like 50/50 with it, but that’s a lot of wishful thinking.

Like today, for instance, I just want to trap myself in my own personal bubble. I don’t want to be around people, but I kind of have to.

As a result, I create an awkward bind where I feel anxious about being near others, but I’m compelled to do so and thus I am going to feel all kinds of strange for the rest of the day.

Talk about a lot of conflicted feelings. Sheesh.
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